I’ve been lucky enough to meet some inspirational people – from serial entrepreneurs to religious leaders. What gives them their mojo isn’t as obvious as you may think.
From a young age we’re told that if we work hard, get a good education, harness our talents and fight our way to the top, success will come our way and we’ll all live happily ever after.
But this ignores evidence to the contrary.
Often we see that the happiest people aren’t the richest, the most successful people haven’t followed the conventional path and the best leaders don’t shout the loudest.
And too many only realise they’ve climbed the wrong ladder when it’s too late.
Just because we’re good at something, it doesn’t mean we enjoy it.
So much for conforming.
In fact, trying to conform to the norms of society and what’s expected of us is something that comes back to haunt us when the chips are down. One of the top regrets of the dying is:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”
Through working closely with some inspirational people, leaders and communities over the last few years I’ve seen some common traits I see in those that have found a balance between personal happiness and career success.
- They are generous with their time
- They work on something they care about deeply
- They don’t compete, they collaborate
- They are learning machines
- They design their life to work for them and their needs
- They don’t talk about doing something, they just do it
- They take time out to look after themselves
- They don’t accept things the way they are
- They have a real sense of urgency
- They’ve eliminated the gap between who they are and what they do
- They believe anything is possible
- They don’t look to blame other people
- They don’t waste time with naysayers
- They don’t take failure personally
- They focus on the positives
- They look forward, not back
- They don’t worry about what other people think
- They don’t wait for opportunity, they engineer serendipity
- They do things their way
- They’re happy for others to take the credit
- They don’t read newspapers
- They surround themselves with people that inspire them
- They’re comfortable asking for help
- They value experiences more than things
- They don’t chase happiness… or success
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